When you get married, your sex life can change drastically. But how often do married couples have sex? Here’s how to tell if you’re having enough.
People aren’t kidding when they say marriages changes things in the bedroom. But it might not be in the way you think. The reason your sex life lags a little when you’re married is simply because you’ve been together a while. So how often do married couples have sex, anyway?
It really depends on the couple. Some people let that sex rut come into their lives without doing anything about it and only have sex once a week – if that. Others, however, decided to take action and do something about their sex lives and for that reason, they have sex a lot more.
An active and healthy sex life is crucial to a happy marriage
Without being close and intimate in the bedroom, you won’t be out of the bedroom. You’ve heard it time and time again, yet it still holds as much truth and value as it did the first time you heard it. And that’s simply because it’s super important.
Couples bond through sex. Yes, you can bond outside of the bedroom but when you have an active sex life, you’re more likely to be comfortable. And when you’re extremely comfortable with your partner, you’re far more like to communicate better. We all know how important that is for a healthy relationship. [Read: Why is sex important in a relationship?]
How often do married couples have sex?
If you’ve been wondering this question as you prepare for marriage or are feeling like your sex life is a little slow, we can help set things straight. Here’s how to know if you’re getting enough attention between the sheets.
#1 You’re happy with the amount of sex you’re getting. Are you good with the sex you’re getting so far? It’s fine to be satisfied even if you’re only having sex a couple times a week, too. The main thing to think about is if you’re happy with the frequency.
If you are, you could just be here looking for some validation after a friend made a comment. No matter what, if you’re happy with the sex and your partner is as well, you’re definitely having enough. Even if your friend brags about having more, it doesn’t matter if you’re pleased. [Read: 10 ways to handle sexual frustration with your partner]
#2 You don’t feel the need to masturbate often. Obviously, there will be that urge sometimes and that’s perfectly normal. The problem arises if you’re masturbating frequently because you’re just not getting enough in the bedroom.
So if you don’t really feel the need to do it very often at all, then you’re probably being perfectly satisfied in bed. One way to know if you’re not getting enough is if you’re masturbating more than you’re having sex.
#3 You’d rather have sex than masturbate, anyway. This is a major sign your sex life is in perfect working order. In fact, it’s extremely healthy if you’d rather wait to have sex with your partner than masturbate when you’re feeling horny.
This not only shows that your sex life is going well, but it also signifies your attraction and desire to be intimate with your partner rather than just do it yourself. This means your relationship is also in great shape. [Read: 11 unique male masturbation techniques]
#4 You’re both initiating sex just as much. If you’re always the person to initiate sex, it’s easy to feel like your significant other isn’t really into it. However, if you’re both initiating it equally, then you know the desire to be intimate with one another is mutual.
This is a huge sign you’re definitely having enough sex. Otherwise, you’d be doing all the work or they would. So long as things are equal, your sex life is just fine.
#5 You don’t have a low sex drive. Low sex drives are often a result of lack of sex, as strange as that sounds. Sex is kind of addicting in that way. The more you have it, the more you want it.
So if you’re not having enough, your sex drive will naturally be lower if you’re also not masturbating. It could feel like you haven’t wanted sex in a really long time. On the flip side, if you’re having sex but still feeling horny often, it means you’re getting plenty. [Read: 15 reasons you have a high sex drive and what to do]
#6 You’re not fantasizing about someone else. This can often happen when couples aren’t having enough sex. You’ll start to fantasize about getting laid and it’s usually with someone else since your spouse isn’t doing the job.
So if that’s not a problem and the only person you really think about having sex with is your significant other, then you’re probably getting enough sex. Obviously, it’s okay to fantasize about someone else every now and then. If it’s the main thing you think about, however, it’s an issue.
#7 You’re trying new things regularly. If you really want to know if your sex life is healthy, no matter how often you have sex, all you really have to do is look at what you’re doing in bed. Are you doing the same thing over and over again? Or are you trying new stuff?
If you’re actively trying new things pretty frequently, then you have a much healthier sex life than many other married couples. As long as you don’t feel bored and you’re satisfied in bed, your sex life is great. [Read: 17 fun sex ideas to mark off on your sex bucket list]
#8 You make time for it even if you’re busy. Basically, prioritizing sex means you’re having more than enough. Even if you’re both super busy with work and life, making time to get intimate is a huge deal that shows you’re definitely taking sex seriously. And that means you’re having enough.
#9 Your non-sex life is just as great. Believe it or not, how you feel about your partner outside of the bedroom says a lot about how they pleasure you between the sheets. If you’re really happy and things are going well, you’re probably having enough sex.
When you’re not, you’ll grow annoyed and even start picking fights for no reason. Therefore, a healthy relationship outside of the bedroom is indicative of a healthy sex life, too. [Read: 15 signs of a healthy relationship you should always look for]
#10 You talk about sex regularly. This is a lot more important than you think. Couple who never discuss sex usually don’t have enough of it or aren’t having the sex they really want. If you’re flirting a lot and talking about how great the sex was, you’re both definitely satisfied.
So long as you can openly discuss sex and how it’s going, you’ll continue to have a healthy, satisfactory sex life. The more you talk about it the better it’ll get, too.
So how often do married couples have sex? As much as they need to in order to both be happy and satisfied. That is, if they’re happy. Sex can vary from couple to couple but as long as you know when you’re having enough, you’re fine.
Published at Mon, 26 Mar 2018 17:30:50 +0000